Effective Ways to Reduce Conflict While You Stay at Home with Your Loved Ones: Part Three

Veronica Monet
6 min readApr 9, 2021

After a year of Netflix and Zoom, many of us are tired of staying home and we’re ready to bust loose.

Whether you live in an area that has reopened completely or in part, restrictions are beginning to relax and you are probably getting out of the house more than you did this past year. And if you live in North America, better weather is probably making it both more tempting and more feasible to experience a little taste of freedom.

But if you live with someone else, there’s a good chance that the pandemic took a toll on your connection. In fact, for many couples, sheltering in place this past twelve months surfaced more than a few issues in their relationship.

It won’t serve you or your partner to ignore those problems. Instead, it’s a good idea to add a few new tools to your relationship toolbox! If that interests you, read on! Or, you can just skip to the video at the bottom of this article for the abbreviated version.

This is Part Three of a four part series. In Part One I showed you How to Take Timeouts that Really Work. In Part Two I shared a fun game that helps you Increase Empathy for Yourself and Your Loved Ones.

In this installment, I show you How to Assert Boundaries that Create More Connection. I call it my Exquisite Partnership Formula™ and it really helps the couples I coach to move past major blocks in their connection.

I like to think of it as five simple steps to navigate potential conflict with clarity and compassion while standing in your truth. May it be the game-changer for you that it has been for so many of my clients.

The Five Steps to Exquisite Partnership™

1. Validate or Identify with Your Partner

2. Appreciate Your Partner

3. Assert Your Healthy Boundaries

4. Redirect Your Partner

5. Invite Partnership

  1. Validate or Identify with Your Partner

If your partner expresses a desire, perception or emotion that you find challenging, remember that they are probably feeling very vulnerable in that moment. They might be asking for…

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Veronica Monet

Author, IFS Informed Coach, Certified Sexologist, former Sex Worker. I write about s-e-x, shame, relationships, trauma, accountability, healing, and joy