I think you are missing the most salient point of the SPE. While Zimbardo may not have taken into account experimenter bias and the lack of random sampling, it is nevertheless true that by replicating prison conditions (not being able to leave and encouraging sadistic behavior from the guards) the participants did indeed conform to the sort of behaviors seen in our prison systems. Those behaviors INCLUDE faking symptoms and acting the part - things you consider to invalidate this research. Rather than work to undermine faulty logic on the part of the experimenter, I think it is more interesting…

After a year of Netflix and Zoom, many of us are tired of staying home and we’re ready to bust loose.

Whether you live in an area that has reopened completely or in part, restrictions are beginning to relax and you are probably getting out of the house more than you did this past year. And if you live in North America, better weather is probably making it both more tempting and more feasible to experience a little taste of freedom.

But if you live with someone else, there’s a good chance that the pandemic took a toll on your…

One of Three Spas Targeted by the Mass Shooter in the Atlanta, Georgia area March 16, 2021

In the wake of another mass murder that has shocked and rocked our nation, we find ourselves once again engaged in a debate we never should have to have: Was the killing of 8 people at three different massage parlors in the Atlanta area a hate crime?

We’ve learned that seven of the victims were women and six of those women were Asian. We know that six of the women worked at the spas and one woman was a first time customer. And these facts are considered to be crucial in determining if a hate crime was committed.

Georgia, where…

She was a virgin. So was he. Spring had sent daffodils and crocuses bursting skyward with their brilliant colors celebrating yet another season of sensual delights.

Amidst the buzz and beauty of the season, what was once a very loyal friendship, seemed to be veering into the as yet uncharted territory of sexual ardor.

But again, they were virgins and really had NO idea what they might be getting into.

His passion was overwhelming him. The mere scent of her caused his brain to lose all perspective. All he could think about was how much he wanted to merge with…

Photo by David Steinberg

Given that she had narrowly, and yet triumphantly, cheated death a year before while she was living in Poland, I was perhaps a little overconfident when my cousin asked for a phone call. Although she was her usual upbeat self, her words landed like dirt on freshly fallen snow.

I should not have been surprised. She had been fighting a very deadly form of cancer for a year. But denial is a many splendored thing and my knees crumpled with the shock.

Mind you, my voice stayed strong. …

Reality Can Be Confusing Enough Without the Blatant Manipulations of Those With an Agenda


I was barely two when I first realized someone was trying to manipulate my perception of reality. My mother was doing her best to distract me with photos in a Life Magazine that was as big as me. Sitting on her lap, I could sense her nervousness. I knew something was amiss.

But what?

A few minutes later, with no explanation, she walked away from me and out the door, leaving me with a strange woman in a white uniform. …

Veronica Monet circa 1998

The first sober escort I ever met was Maria. She was a spunky, sexy brunette who attended my home group. She worked a good program and still had a hard time staying sober for more than a few months at a time. Maria felt prostitution was an impediment to her sobriety and it was her wish to quit the business someday soon. I eventually lost track of her so I have no idea if she ever did quit prostitution nor do I know if she was able to sustain any long-term sobriety.

But I certainly recall the resistance I felt…

Around the globe, as COVID cases and deaths spike, many communities that were re-opening, are now re-closing. For many of us, that means yet MORE time sheltering at home with loved ones.

How about you?

Are you at home with your partner? Your children? Other family members? Maybe a close friend or two?

How is that going?

If you are experiencing some tension in your connections, you aren’t alone. The added emotional, logistical and economic stress of the pandemic is taking a toll on just about everyone. …

How are you feeling about being home? Are you with your partner? If you have children, are they there too?

As I am sure you know, Shelter in Place and Stay at Home orders have impacted most of us. But I wonder if you are aware of how much energy you are expending trying to adapt to new routines and habits?

It can feel overwhelming, because it is. And that emotional overwhelm can stress your connections to others, particularly when those connections are 24/7!

Togetherness can be a wonderful thing. But if there were unresolved issues in your relationships beforehand…

Take a breath. A long, deep breath. Feel into yourself.

How is your heart?

What emotions are coursing through you?

Can you feel the fear enveloping our planet?

Now take another breath and relax for just a few minutes while I tell you the short version of a sad story. It’s about what I lived through, and the light it shines on our shared journey with the current pandemic, COVID-19.

When I was six years old, my dad moved our family of four into a tiny travel trailer because he didn’t want his children to attend public school. Although he…

Veronica Monet

Author of Love, Lust & Romance in the Wake of #MeToo (TBA); Sex Secrets of Escorts (2005), Founder of The Shame Free Zone™ & The Exquisite Partnership Formula™

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